Opinions vs. Confrontations

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Since I started doing the huddle, I’ve been much more active on the comments section of AG than I used to be.  I was previously basically a lurker.   Some observations I’ve seen which are common to the internet in general are that people will voice their opinions, then someone else will voice theirs, and then a fight/argument ensues.   Often times an individual is simply just posting their opinion but someone else will take offense to it.  Since internet people aren’t seeing each other face to face, they will say things more aggressively than they would in person – we forget there is a person behind those words.

Eventually someone will get fed up and simply stop posting.  While some may consider that as a plus, in reality we all miss out on some potentially good observations. 

Before I go a little further, I’ll reveal a little more of my background.  Along with being the morning huddle guy, I’m also a seventh degree black belt in karate.  I spend a lot of time teaching students that one of the best ways to protect yourself is to avoid a confrontation in the first place, and if confronted, how to avoid escalating it.  Some of that knowledge and experience can be applied to our interactions on AG.

Even more pertinent is that I raised a couple kids.  Like all kids, they think they know everything.  Eventually they learn that they don’t.  But they won’t admit it.  I think they learned that from me.

I’m a firm believer that everyone is entitled to their opinions, and many won’t agree with mine.  That’s a good thing because if everyone agreed then there wouldn’t be much to discuss.  So, how can you fully express your opinion, but reduce the likelihood of offending someone?  Here are a few thoughts…

Avoid directly calling out the individual that you are disagreeing with – that definitely will make a person take it personally.  Also, if you are going to voice such an opinion, do it in a neutral way – don’t necessarily reply directly to a message that says the opposite. Just post it as a new comment.  Your opinion will be heard the same, but there would be less chance of a person being offended by it or things escalating.

You don’t need to tell someone they are stupid, or an idiot, just because you have a different opinion.  Unless they are a Raiders fan. 

If you have a differing opinion, you can also start out with something along the lines of “I see your point, but my take on it is….”  This can turn an argument into a discussion.

Keep in mind that I don’t think anyone has ever won an argument on the internet.

Don’t take things too personal.  Keep in mind that others probably don’t know you that well, you are likely just a name on a screen. 

If all else fails, one good thing about internet arguments is that it’s a lot easier to just walk away than in a real life confrontation.

I’m sure others will have thoughts on this as well.  We all have a common bond, in that we root for the Chiefs.  Let’s not treat other Chiefs fans like they were a Raiders fan!

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Severely Concussed
Severely Concussed(@severely-concussed)
11/11/2021 7:22 pm

I came here to start a fight, then I saw Hoosier is a 7th degree black belt.
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upamtn
upamtn(@upamtn)
11/11/2021 6:47 pm

of course, that’s just like, you know, your opinion man

thanks, Hoosier!

steve_chiefs
steve_chiefs(@steve_chiefs)
11/11/2021 5:18 pm

I was thinking just the other day

I don’t own a gun, I don’t carry a knife, not even carry a pocket knife…
My best self defense is inside my skull 🙂

gonzangkc11
gonzangkc11(@gonzangkc11)
Reply to  steve_chiefs
11/11/2021 5:28 pm

get guns & knives..

72 minutes to ANIMAL – some say 72 seconds to ANIMAL
When next pandemic happens

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  steve_chiefs
11/11/2021 5:29 pm

Man, are you in deep shit

gonzangkc11
gonzangkc11(@gonzangkc11)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 5:34 pm

Texas this year was minutes away from parts of state not having power….for months. People turn animal in 72 hours, some same 72 minutes, others say 72 seconds. Start stealing & taking from the Not Ready peeps.

rip58
rip58(@rip58lovealways)
Reply to  gonzangkc11
11/11/2021 5:50 pm

We are a little better prepared but not enough. No food,,no gas, no water..melting snow and ice so you could flush the toilet..fuk that.. and no one has done shit to fix anything..
But I do have 11 guns and over 2000 rounds of ammunition 😁

rip58
rip58(@rip58lovealways)
Reply to  steve_chiefs
11/11/2021 5:44 pm

That and your 6’6”and a solid 270.. who’s gonna fuck with you…

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  rip58
11/11/2021 5:51 pm

oh

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
11/11/2021 5:17 pm

Read the following
OBJ to Rams article – oh well
Cam returns to Panthers – oh boy
Ruggs attorney say firefighters were too slow to put out the fire – oh you gotta be fucking shitting me

upamtn
upamtn(@upamtn)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 6:49 pm

I truly hope that Ruggs gets 50 years

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
11/11/2021 5:06 pm

Here is the difference – You warn a Chargers fan that a speeding car is heading towards him, you watch the speeding car strike down a Broncos fan, and you better be driving the car that runs down a Raiders fan.

NovaChiefs
NovaChiefs(@novachiefs)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 6:52 pm

Ruggs, is that you? (Too soon?)

Tyrone
Tyrone(@tyrone5)
11/11/2021 4:09 pm

Keep in mind that I don’t think anyone has ever won an argument on the internet.”

Very important point here. And to add to it, even if you did win an argument on the internet, so what?

MasterChief
MasterChief(@masterchief)
Reply to  Tyrone
11/11/2021 4:14 pm

^^^This!

…..Even though I am guilty of it.

Last edited 2 months ago by MasterChief
zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  MasterChief
11/11/2021 4:23 pm

so you ARE human

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
11/11/2021 4:04 pm

We should also institute a “Give respect to the greatest band ever” rule when talking about KISS.

pompano
pompano(@pompano)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 4:08 pm

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EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
Reply to  pompano
11/11/2021 4:59 pm

I am not the one that down voted that.

pompano
pompano(@pompano)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 5:05 pm

Didn’t think you were 🙂

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  pompano
11/11/2021 5:06 pm

it was me

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 5:06 pm

KISS Rocks!

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 5:08 pm

Zulu is the man.

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 5:42 pm

Fuck the raiders

pompano
pompano(@pompano)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 6:52 pm

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upamtn
upamtn(@upamtn)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 6:54 pm

you misspelled “sucks” …

just never been much of a KISS fan, pop disguised at metal with fire (ok, the fire was alright, I admit)

rip58
rip58(@rip58lovealways)
Reply to  pompano
11/11/2021 6:03 pm

Hahaha, one was from me … stupid thumb.. 😂

pompano
pompano(@pompano)
Reply to  rip58
11/11/2021 6:51 pm

should have had them fix that while they were working on the hand.

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
11/11/2021 3:56 pm

Most times we police ourselves pretty well – there are a few exceptions to the rule. We can mess with each other – that comes with the territory – but most of us know when that line is crossed. I have a hard time walking away once I get upset.

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
11/11/2021 3:53 pm

I do not believe that we should insult Raiders fans as we are supposed to go the extra mile for those with special needs.

vvet818
vvet818(@vvet818)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 3:55 pm

I have some past experiences in Oakland and i say fuck ‘em.
ps, no matter where they play……fuck ‘em!

Last edited 2 months ago by vvet818
EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
Reply to  vvet818
11/11/2021 3:57 pm

You changed my mind – FUCK THE RAIDERS AND THEIR FANS!!!

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 4:31 pm

We changed your mind? We won

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
11/11/2021 3:41 pm

Fuck the raiders

Maw423
Maw423(@maw423)
11/11/2021 3:25 pm

Great write up Hoosier, but what would we all do for fun if not berate and abuse each other!?!?

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  Maw423
11/11/2021 3:43 pm

we could lie to one another — nobody will know, it’s the internet

Maw423
Maw423(@maw423)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 5:51 pm

Facts hahaha

Maw423
Maw423(@maw423)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 5:52 pm

We probably disagree more than we agree, but I’d still wash my hands before buyin you a beer brother.

Nasrani
Nasrani(@nasrani)
11/11/2021 3:10 pm

I’m one here whose views are outside of the mainstream (at least, on this website). In my experience I’ve found that often times being patient with people helps (turn the other cheek and all that), and if that doesn’t work, then just don’t answer them when a difference of opinion turns into personal jabs. Eventually they tire of trying to bait you into a fight if you don’t take the bait.

Just my two cents.

Incidentally, if someone offers you a penny for your thoughts and you put in your two cents’ worth, what happens to the other penny?

I also agree that we’re in a day and age now where everyone wants to fight with someone over anything, because everything is outrage.

Last edited 2 months ago by Nasrani
upamtn
upamtn(@upamtn)
Reply to  Nasrani
11/11/2021 6:51 pm

what happens if you get scared half to death … twice?

gonzangkc11
gonzangkc11(@gonzangkc11)
11/11/2021 3:00 pm

Odell to rams

EAFOX
EAFOX(@eafox)
Reply to  gonzangkc11
11/11/2021 3:51 pm

PROFANITY PROFANITY PROFANITY

Nasrani
Nasrani(@nasrani)
Reply to  EAFOX
11/11/2021 3:53 pm

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MasterChief
MasterChief(@masterchief)
11/11/2021 3:00 pm

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zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  hoosierchief
11/11/2021 3:48 pm

Hey F**K you Hoosier

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 3:49 pm

Nothing safe about that

MasterChief
MasterChief(@masterchief)
Reply to  zulu trader
11/11/2021 4:16 pm

That’s just saying “hello” in your language.

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  MasterChief
11/11/2021 4:29 pm

TY

Chief-Blinders-On
Chief-Blinders-On(@chiefblinderson)
11/11/2021 2:49 pm

Personally, I think folks need to throw MOAR fits. Break extra things! Be more creative in their insults and wider in the random recipients. Push grown kids downstairs violently into Raiders, Charger and Broncos fans just as they’re coming up to the top to sit with the Love’s. Punch a stranger in the face. Argue even more stances online that you know nothing about in the name of being slightly perturbed and irritated online occasionally. It’s Raider Week!

Great stuff Hoosier.

About this Chiefs game in Las Vegas!

ArrowFan
ArrowFan(@arrowfan)
11/11/2021 2:27 pm

Hoosier, I couldn’t disagree with you more. I think it is a stupid thing to neutralize your rules towards the Raider fan while leaving out the Donkey and the Charger. I can’t see any point to this at all. We should be treating all disgusting idiots alike.

How am I doing at following the rules? Don’t get me wrong I’m just playing with you. Great post, I think as a society, in general, we have lost the ability to argue with each other civilly, mainly due to social media and our ability to communicate incognito. However back in the day gentlemen would ultimately solve their arguments with duals. I would be lying if I said that I never wished it was acceptable to fight someone to the death over something as important as OBJ to the Chiefs.

Chief-Blinders-On
Chief-Blinders-On(@chiefblinderson)
Reply to  hoosierchief
11/11/2021 2:42 pm

Meh… it’s Raiders week. Those other fans know we hate them too. Goes without saying.

zulu trader
zulu trader(@zulu-trader)
Reply to  Chief-Blinders-On
11/11/2021 3:45 pm

Fuck the raiders

NovaChiefs
NovaChiefs(@novachiefs)
11/11/2021 2:07 pm

Are you talking to me? Are YOU talking to ME??

How am I doing?

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