Hello to all you Arrowhead Guys!!!
I haven’t tried to write anything in quite a while so please have patience with me. To start I am MrsBRAG. We’ve been married for over 27 years and it still feels like yesterday. We talked about the Hunt debacle and when I got to the main part of my argument he suggested that I put it in writing and submit it to Tony so here goes…
Firstly, now that the kerfuffle has died down I feel that cooler heads will prevail when discussing this topic! (You have been warned) I feel uniquely qualified to speak on this subject even though I never played football nor did I watch it with any interest until BRAG started watching the Chiefs play all those years ago when we moved to KC (1992).
I grew up in a home where sports were taken seriously. My father was a well respected girl’s basketball coach and I played for him for almost fourteen years. I watched, learned and played for a man who felt that his teams were his family. That sense of family translated for me the attitude that you always help family but also you owed it to family to be truthful about your actions, no matter how wrong they proved to be.
BRAG and I also carried out this philosophy when we had our kids. The only way we could protect them from the nasties in the outside world was if they told us the truth about what was going on in their lives. Many a time we would use this to help them avoid that peer pressure that would get them in trouble. We would lie loudly in front of some foolish kid that our kid wasn’t allowed to do whatever activity their friends wanted to include them in that they didn’t want to participate in.
Also we we had the policy that if they did something which they were ashamed of or could get in trouble for doing, that they HAD to tell us the truth so that we could provide cover for them or simply mitigate the fallout for them. [Ed. This doesn’t mean they didn’t get in Dutch with us, though. BRAG]
As far as I can see, this is how Andy Reid runs the social aspects of his teams. They are a family. You don’t hide or lie to your parents. Like it or not Reid is the father figure to his players. He has to teach them, train them, push them, hold them back from foolish choices and discipline them in a way that retains both the family and professionalism that they must present to the outside world.
I refuse to speak of KH’s actions on the night in question. In my opinion, his main offense against the team was not his actions that night, but not telling his coach the truth. The father of his team family could have helped him in so many ways. Coming clean, telling the press that he would be required to take anger management classes, rehab or any number of things could have kept him not only out of tough legal problems but on the team and still playing for the Chiefs for as long has he could physically play in the league.
Yes, what he did was stupid. Yes, he might have gotten away with it at a time when there were no surveillance cameras. However the reality is he threw away his career with the Chiefs simply by lying to the man who could have helped him in so many ways. He betrayed the family that could have been there for him. He betrayed himself.
Just my opinion…