Odds and (burnt) Ends: Guest Writer Edition

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Hello to all you Arrowhead Guys!!!

I haven’t tried to write anything in quite a while so please have patience with me. To start I am MrsBRAG. We’ve been married for over 27 years and it still feels like yesterday. We talked about the Hunt debacle and when I got to the main part of my argument he suggested that I put it in writing and submit it to Tony so here goes…

Firstly, now that the kerfuffle has died down I feel that cooler heads will prevail when discussing this topic! (You have been warned) I feel uniquely qualified to speak on this subject even though I never played football nor did I watch it with any interest until BRAG started watching the Chiefs play all those years ago when we moved to KC (1992).

I grew up in a home where sports were taken seriously. My father was a well respected girl’s basketball coach and I played for him for almost fourteen years. I watched, learned and played for a man who felt that his teams were his family. That sense of family translated for me the attitude that you always help family but also you owed it to family to be truthful about your actions, no matter how wrong they proved to be.

BRAG and I also carried out this philosophy when we had our kids. The only way we could protect them from the nasties in the outside world was if they told us the truth about what was going on in their lives. Many a time we would use this to help them avoid that peer pressure that would get them in trouble. We would lie loudly in front of some foolish kid that our kid wasn’t allowed to do whatever activity their friends wanted to include them in that they didn’t want to participate in.

Also we we had the policy that if they did something which they were ashamed of or could get in trouble for doing, that they HAD to tell us the truth so that we could provide cover for them or simply mitigate the fallout for them. [Ed. This doesn’t mean they didn’t get in Dutch with us, though. BRAG]

As far as I can see, this is how Andy Reid runs the social aspects of his teams. They are a family. You don’t hide or lie to your parents. Like it or not Reid is the father figure to his players. He has to teach them, train them, push them, hold them back from foolish choices and discipline them in a way that retains both the family and professionalism that they must present to the outside world.

I refuse to speak of KH’s actions on the night in question. In my opinion, his main offense against the team was not his actions that night, but not telling his coach the truth. The father of his team family could have helped him in so many ways. Coming clean, telling the press that he would be required to take anger management classes, rehab or any number of things could have kept him not only out of tough legal problems but on the team and still playing for the Chiefs for as long has he could physically play in the league.

Yes, what he did was stupid. Yes, he might have gotten away with it at a time when there were no surveillance cameras. However the reality is he threw away his career with the Chiefs simply by lying to the man who could have helped him in so many ways. He betrayed the family that could have been there for him. He betrayed himself.

Just my opinion…

MrsBRAG


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SPI Chief
SPI Chief
01/09/2019 8:08 pm

Great write up Mrs. BRAG! I truly appreciate a woman’s perspective on this site and on this matter. I could not agree with you more about being honest and upfront about your indiscretions being the only way to approach life. Particularly poignant for me right at this moment as well. I hope you keep writing, and thanks.

MrsBRAG
MrsBRAG
Reply to  SPI Chief
01/09/2019 11:06 pm

Thank you for the praise and encouragement! I’m sure I will be even more active in the future.

Tyrone
01/09/2019 2:04 pm

Rec

sydenham
sydenham
01/09/2019 12:59 pm

Yup.
By the same token: you don’t have to like your locker room neighbour but if your honest with them then you build respect and family.

mgrafton
mgrafton
01/09/2019 9:54 am

Great write up, Mrs BRAG. Parents and coaches are there to help and guide you, but as a kid or player, you’ve got to do your part by being honest and coachable. Well said.

optional
optional
01/09/2019 9:51 am

A well reasoned and equally well written post. Kudos MrsBRAG. I agree with the viewpoint from a parenting perspective. From a business perspective, i doubt the punishment could be any less than being cut without alienating a good portion of the fanbase, causing PR problems and unnecessary distractions. No amount of “parenting” intervention could have mitigated it.

MrsBRAG
MrsBRAG
Reply to  optional
01/09/2019 11:28 pm

Thanks for taking the time to respond. I enjoyed putting this together.

Team Player
Team Player
01/09/2019 9:38 am

In completely other news, while I am not a KU fan, or a basketball fan at all, really, I am excited about tonight’s game. Probably because Ochai Agbaji’s mother was the kindergarten teacher for all three of my kids.

Team Player
Team Player
01/09/2019 9:24 am

Welcome to the wonderful world of op-Ed writing Mrs BRAG!

While I agree wholeheartedly in general, it is also important to realize we can’t oberanalyze the entire situation and break it down into isolated errors choosing only one as the error.

Hunt kicked her
Hunt lied about it

Those two together made it cut-worthy
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But if it was

Hunt was late to practice because he got pulled over for speeding
Hunt lied about it

That would not be cut-worthy

Chiefsfan115
Chiefsfan115
Reply to  Team Player
01/09/2019 9:27 am

If Hunt sped to practice, was forced to sit down with Reid, Bienemy, Veach and looked them straight in the eyes and said, “I wasn’t speeding I swear to you” he still should have been cut.

Speeding killed one of the best players the Chiefs ever had btw.

Team Player
Team Player
Reply to  Chiefsfan115
01/09/2019 9:36 am

I know. And texting while driving is at least as dangerous. But culturally we accept these dangers as harmless (despite obvious statistics) while others are deemed egregious. Again, no decision is made in a vacuum.

MrsBRAG
MrsBRAG
Reply to  Team Player
01/09/2019 9:33 am

Oh, I agree with you that it was the totality of his actions that made it imperative that he be cut from the team but coming clean with the coach could have kept that as a last resort rather than an immediate response.

SPI Chief
SPI Chief
Reply to  MrsBRAG
01/09/2019 8:16 pm

Absolutely. The team could have required he go to anger management and provide service to the community for abused women, suspending him for the first half of the season and requiring ongoing monitoring. This is exactly what the next team that picks him up will require. He will play again, and it could have been for us…. had he not lied.

CHIEFSandSABRES
CHIEFSandSABRES
01/09/2019 8:58 am

And your opinion is correct. He lied is the plain and simple reason the Chiefs cut him. If he’d been honest about what happened on the night it all transpired (I refuse to call it a “night in question” because no question he kicked her) the Chiefs would have used the off-season getting him help, and levied a suspension on him in house.
This is a good talking point with adolescent children, lying DOES have serious consequences.

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